Why It’s Unfair to Compare Yourself to Others

Kristen SchouKristen Schou
Sep 14, 2017

Have you ever suffered from comparing yourself to others? Kristen discusses why it’s unfair for you to compare yourself to others and why you should be focusing on yourself.

Comparing Yourself to Others

I know with me and my depression I always look at other people and go, why can’t I be as happy as them, why can’t I be as successful as them, why, why, why, why can’t I be this other person?

We all have these thoughts, but they’re not healthy.

There’s a lot of downsides to comparing yourself to others. It’s unfair comparing your uniqueness and your abilities to somebody else’s.

They have different uniqueness, and they have different abilities. You have a distinct uniqueness, and you have different skills. You’re two separate people who come from two different environments and two different walks of life.

You cannot compare yourself to that person because it’s unfair. I say this because you are way too unique to compare yourself to others because no two individuals are alike.

You can sit there and compare yourself for hours to different people in magazines, TV shows or in daily life. It’s just a waste of time, and there’s no end to this cycle. It just continues and continues and wastes time and weighs down on us.

How to Combat Feelings of Comparing Yourself to Others

There are a few things you can do to combat these feelings and today I want to tell you a few things you could do instead of comparing yourself to others.

Realize that comparing yourself to others is lame. It’s a lame thing. It does not make you feel good, doesn’t make anyone else feel good. It just makes you feel very crappy.

Be Mindful of Your Accomplishments

Be conscious about your successes. Don’t fixate on the success of other people.

Look at yourself and be mindful of the things that you do well, the good things that you’ve done in your life or some big accomplishments like going to college, getting that degree, getting out of bed in the morning, the little things.

Praise Yourself

There are so many things that you can appreciate yourself for and instead of looking at other people and praising other people, try to praise yourself.

Inspire Yourself

Find inspiration but not a comparison. It’s okay to look at somebody and say, I like what you are doing, let’s take what you’re doing to inspire me to do what you do.

There’s a difference between comparing yourself to that person, saying, I’m never going to get there, I’m never going to be as successful or as happy.

Flip that around and say, I see you, I see what you’re doing, and I like it, and that is going to inspire me to better myself or to do things to get to where you are.

It’s better if you motivate yourself instead of comparing yourself to others and if you need to compare yourself, compare yourself to yourself. Try to see how you can build yourself up to be where you want to be.

Write Down Your Goals or Where You Need to Be

Write down some goals and write down some things that you can do every day to get to where you need to be. Compare yourself to your past. Look at your past and see how far you’ve come.

You’ve come a long way in your journey of whatever that is, and you need to praise yourself because you are amazing and you are unique, and you don’t need to compare yourself to others because you are all that you need.

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