How to Talk to Someone With Depression
Sometimes, it can be a bit tricky figuring out the exact language of how to talk to someone who has depression. Elodie is going to share with you some tips on how to talk to someone with depression, how to avoid being dismissive, and how to support them.
Firstly, you don't want to shame someone who has depression — don't make them feel bad that they have depression. Instead, you want to actively listen.
Listen to how they feel, and instead of telling them what to do, ask them what they need and what they want and you can base your suggestions on that.
Don’t Be Dismissive
Don't use phrases like “get out of this rut” or “just hurry up and feel better already.” You're rushing them through this process.
Instead, you want to validate their feelings. Validate how they feel and use language like, “It's okay to live and feel how you're feeling.” That way they feel like they can go through this process with you.
Validate Physical Symptoms
Sometimes depression manifests itself into physical symptoms like loss of appetite, back pain, or headaches. Don't neglect those physical symptoms.
Maybe do things like offer to cook for them or go out to eat. Or even offer them a coupon to see a masseuse — that way you're doing a nice gesture but you're also addressing the physical symptoms.
Seek Other Support
You don't want to assume all the responsibility yourself. The more support someone with depression has, the better it is for them. Offer resources that are maybe online or a professional within their community.
Support is very important in depression. I'm happy that you're willing to take those steps to figure out how to talk to someone who has depression.